Episode 402 – Everything is within us

• Welcome back my friends
• I am still inspired by our poem from Rainer Maria Rilke from yesterday
  • So we are grasped by what we cannot grasp;
  • it has an inner light, even from a distance-
• my favorite 2 lines from this very short poem
  • where every word is beautiful and filled with meaning and wisdom
  • if you missed that episode – listen to it – you might enjoy is as much as I did creating it
• Everything is within us
• It’s the essence of why I called my podcast Quest For You
• I wish for everyone to find back to themselves so they can access this inner light that Rilke talks about
• Everything is within us
  • Love
  • Our purpose here on this planet
  • Our direction for this life
• Its there
• And it guides us
  • We pursue what we attracts us and we go after the things that we enjoy
• But we don’t realize they come from within
• We think the answers are on the outside
  • We orient ourselves on what everyone else is doing
• That doesn’t necessarily mean we are off track
  • But it may take us longer
  • We make it harder than it needs to be
  • And we often struggle along the way
• I think of my past relationships and my friendships
• It required several failures for me to finally learn
  • Learning to love myself first
  • Which then resulted in pursuing what I love
  • And by bringing my love out into the world, I attract the right relationships into my life
  • And it still is not easy
  • Because I don’t always listen within
• joy and fulfillment are an end destination many people strive for
  • the hill in Rilke’s poem that we are walking towards to
  • something we are striving to achieve
  • that we feel like we have to work to get to
  • but when we get there – its never as fulfilling as we had hoped
  • because happiness is not an end destination – to be found on top of a hill somewhere

• we look for fulfillment on the outside
  • some else’s latest trends become our objective
  • the shoes, the purse, the house, the boat, the school, the career and so on
• and – unknowingly
  • we all do the same stuff
  • we replicate what everyone else is doing
  • encouraged by our media who loves to give us the Top 10 of everything so we continue doing what everyone else already does
• we need to find the inner light because that is where the direction for our life comes from
  • the voice in our heart
  • the song in our soul
  • the wings in our spirit
• Everything is within us
• we need to turn back to the self rather than looking outside
• There is a reason we all look so different
• We are supposed to be unique
• But sometimes I feel we are like little robots
  • We all apply to the same top 10 schools
  • We want to work for one of the top 100 companies
  • We want to live in one of the top 10 cities
  • And so on
• Unknowingly, we follow what is common and we miss what’s extraordinary
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• its no wonder people are so scared to step out into their life and express their uniqueness
  • its against the mainstream
  • its unusual and we don’t want to be that person
• yet – we are here to create
• there is so much inspiration within us and we have to give it space to come out
• when we let it out
• when we allow ourselves to be inspired
• I know it feels amazing
• That’s when I am my true self
  • When I write my episodes
  • When I am in nature
  • When I make someone smile
• When you put your energy towards what brings you joy and what fills your heart
  • You are listening to your inner voice
  • That’s where all your dreams and your aspirations are
  • And that’s also where all the solutions are that you are frantically seeking
• Allow yourself to be different
• Allow yourself to dream and try out your crazy ideas
• Luckily, with the endless possibilities that our modern world offers, we hear about so many more people that go against the mainstream
• They are not afraid to dream big and take huge chances
• In encourage you – find these people and let yourself be inspired by them
  • Look at those people that are in gym every day and get to know them
  • Sign up on Meetup and look for the courageous people that have created groups that you can join
  • Strike up a conversation with the person that you see working in your corner coffee shop regularly
  • Read the biographies of people that have accomplished the extraordinary
  • Collect the stories of people that travelled the world and started businesses in their bedroom closet – keep them in your journal to inspire you regularly
• These are people that have rebelled
• That didn’t replicate what others did
• They created their own legacy
• And we are surrounded by them
• We just need to look
• Often we get hung up on grand figures of the past that are not alive anymore
• But in our daily life we can find people that do equal great things
• Most likely
• You wont find them in the bar or shopping at the mall every Saturday
• They may not wear the latest fashion or stand in line to get into a fancy restaurant
  • In fact the hardest working people I know wear consistent outfits, often look like they don’t have a ton of money and follow a tightly dialed in routine
• I heard this being said the other day on a podcast:
• Courage is not the opposite of fear
• Courage is the opposite of conformity
• Its when you stand up and break the norm
• Its not easy – that’s why it’s a real demonstration of courage when you do it
• Do you know how long I was in misery because I felt my life was never measuring up quite enough to the standard?
• I would compare myself to women my age – look at the fancy houses they lived in and the powerful positions they held in well recognized companies
• And it would throw me into repression because I couldn’t see how I would ever get there
• And if you heard my story – you know I tried
• But all I really did was I conformed myself to what I thought I needed to do
• As a result I was never happy
• Today I am happy because I have simplified my life and don’t live by a standard anymore
• I don’t need anyones approval of my apartment, where I live and work and how I make my money
• Only my own
• And that comes from within myself
• I encourage you to ask yourself:
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• Where have you conformed in life?
• Where have you conformed to the ways of your family, you culture, your town, just to try to fit in?
• Maybe so you could be accepted and loved?
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• We are so afraid of others
  • What they might say or think about us
  • We adjust our behaviors and make decisions based on that
  • Isn’t that crazy?
  • And in the process of doing so we lose ourselves
  • Our uniqueness
• And yet – we cannot avoid people not approving – no matter how much we follow the norm
• When I decided to stay in the US to go to college – my family wasn’t happy
  • Cant you do it here?
  • Why so far away?
• I thought they would be happy – college is a big deal – nobody in my family went to college
• No matter what you do
  • People will still be mad at you
  • Those whose love and attention you want will probably not give it to you, no matter how you look
• So why not be devoted to yourself alone?
• Why not have that commitment to YOU first?
• We are not here to please others
• We are here to shine our light so we can inspire others
• And by committing to yourself – you set the example to other people to do the same
• By pursuing your dreams you show others that they can do it too
• as you shine it in your happiness and fulfillment – as so many people who went after their dreams do – your radiance can’t help but be cast outward and reflect onto others
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• Try it
• Flesh it out
• Grab your journal and write it out
• Pick one area of your life and imagine what it might look like if you conformed a little less and instead listened more to yourself – your desires and your needs
• What would it be like?
• Play with it – write it out
  • The job you don’t enjoy
  • The partner that doesn’t appreciate you
  • Your health that is deteriorating
• Imagine a different outcome
• Write it out – just to play with it
• And believe it or not – when you do this – you are already taking the first step
• Because you are listening to yourself
• You might think it silly and that rational person shouldn’t act like this
• But by listening to yourself you are actually the most rational person you can be
• Notice how energy and enthusiasm fill you when you begin to imagine the impossible
• Happens to me every time I do
• It’s a great happiness booster
• Start there
• Imagine doing things you’ve never done before
  • notice the exhilaration and excitement that fills you
• and then notice whats happens next
• I still remember when I first recorded my voice on my iPhone – just for fun
• And here I am – 2 years later over 400 episodes out in the world for everyone to hear
• Everything is within us
• All you have to do is let it out

Much love my friends