Episode 53 – willing to give

• Are you a giver or a taker
• Today I want to you to seriously consider this:
• Are you taking from others – or are you giving to them
• Are you taking
  • By dishing out harsh words and criticism
  • Unkindness, meanness
  • Are you purposely looking for ways to hurt others
  • trying to teach someone a lesson
  • bringing your negative energy to other peoples lifes
• are your intentions to take something from others
• by bringing them down, are you:
  • darkening their good mood, their uplifting spirits
  • ruining their day
  • hurting their outlook on life
  • destroying relationships
• if you do so sometimes – ask yourself WHY
• what are your intentions
• and where is this coming from?
• Are you unhappy yourself and cannot stand seeing others happy?
• Are you trying to control others to make them think or behave in a way you deem right?
• What are you trying to accomplish?
• Next time you catch yourself TAKING – try to dig deep and search for your motive
• There is one, believe me
• There is a knot inside of you, an anxiousness, a fear
• There is something that’s calling and you are trying to answer
• You just have not yet learned the proper answer
• Remember – the easy answer is usually the negative one
• It gives us a temporary satisfaction
• It feels good to dish out, unload, spray that anger and that hurt
• It relieves us of this inner calling, this pain or fear
• For a moment
• But it’s the wrong approach
• it doesn’t bring you any further, and it holds others up from their progress
• you are taking
• from yourself and from others

• Today I would like to ask you to become a giver
• Not a giver of things, or money or time
• But a giver of your heart
• Of the things that are in your heart
• To do so, you have to Open your heart and find what you can share
• So what do I mean with giving?
• I mean giving instead of taking
• Just think the opposite
• Instead of bringing others down, build them up
• Our words are so powerful
• Use them wisely
• Think about your choice of words – your vocabulary, the tone of your voice, and most of all, the intentions behind them
• Use words that are
  • Positive
  • Uplifting
  • Inspiring
  • Motivating
  • Solution-focused, not problem-loaded
• Does this sound challenging?
• It sure does and it is
• At first you probably cannot even think of a lot of words that would fall into these categories
• Its normal because we hardly use such words
• So it will take time and practice
• But its worth it
• The world, the people in this world, your friends and the strangers you meet every day – they need giving
• Everyone needs a giving person
• A smile is the easiest way to give
• An uplifting gesture
• And then you have your words
• So again:
• Next time you are inclined to take away from someone’s happiness, think about a way to give to their life
  • When someone has hurt you, don’t hurt back – give them something positive instead so they can learn to be better next time
  • When the circumstances don’t play in your favor, don’t get upset and angry – contribute with something that makes the situation better
  • When you feel down and discouraged, don’t talk negatively to yourself – find a way to bring yourself back up

• The goodness in this world starts with you
• The negativity in this world stops with you
• That’s how powerful you are
• Use your power
• Use the power and influence with your thoughts, your words and your actions
• Give to others
• Extend your grace
• Build others up
• And What you give is what’s going to come back at you
• when you give to others, you are also giving to yourself
• building others up, builds yourself up
• What you say affects you and others
• I call it a double-whammy
• You can not only make someone else happy with kind words and actions, but also yourself
• I am sure you have felt this before
• This feeling of having said or done something positive
• And the more of an effort it was for you the better it felt
  • The email you re-wrote a few times unit it sounded less emotional and more professional
  • The time you didn’t text or call right back but thought about your response first
  • The polite answer to the rude person
  • The smile to the angry stranger
• All these are giving responses that – in the end – make the world a better place
• Start today:
• Focus less on receiving, and more on giving
• Become a giver and stop being a taker

Quote:

“You give but little when you give of your possessions.
It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.”
― Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet