Episode 43 – Being good with you

• When you wake up to my podcast, I know you feel inspired to make changes
• To work on yourself
• To be more motivated for the things you have to do
• And to make time for the things you want to do
• Maybe you started meditating, or incorporated other suggestions into your life
• You probably listen to other podcasts,
• You read,
• Do yoga and work out
• You are working hard
• But yet, there are still things about you that others don’t like
• They comment to you on it
• Or they talk behind your back and it gets back to you
• At the end of such a day, after you think you worked hard n yourself, did everything right, and yet still felt not enough …
• At the end of such a day … you need to tell yourself this:
• All you can do is be you
• Learn to be good with you
• That doesn’t mean not to make changes and improve
• But your improvement journey is for you
• You are addressing an inner need, a calling only you can hear
• You are not changing to meet your friends’ expectations.
• They may have valid comments and good feedback
• But you are on your own journey
• People have the right to not like you
• Let them have their right and let it be
• You have to be good with yourself
• And you have to be good with the choices others make
• While they may scratch on your ego, because you want to be liked by everyone, its not feasible
• Aristotle said, “The only way to avoid criticism is to say nothing, do nothing and be nothing”.
• Impossible to do right, unless you live a very boring life
• Don’t be afraid to be you
• Don’t hide yourself behind a curtain of fakeness and pretending
• Be good with you
• Were you born with a loud and boisterous voice?
• Don’t hide it. Use it. There will be people who love it and people who hate it.
• Could there be ways to control your voice and use it in a more targeted way?
• Your journey will lead you there
• Consider feedback, it can be valuable
• But make a distinction between hoping everyone likes you and working on yourself
• Are you shy and quiet? Serious and withdrawn?
• This loud and noisy world needs people like you.
• Find your place in it.
• Recognize these attributes as your strengths and use them
• Could there be ways you can learn to express yourself more clearly, to approach others more proactively, to smile more frequently?
• Your journey will lead you there if needed.
• Never force yourself into being someone you are not.
• All you can do is be you.
• That’s all
• Accept that
• Accept yourself
• There will always be criticism
• Ask the great artists of the world who expose themselves constantly through their work
• They know all about criticism
• How do they deal with it?
• I like this quote from WF
• “The artist doesn’t have time to listen to the critics. The ones who want to be writers read the reviews, the ones who want to write don’t have the time to read reviews.”
  – William Faulkner
• stay on your path
• don’t get swayed
• if you are pursuing your dreams and your passions, don’t look to also be liked by everyone
• that will be too much to handle
• getting criticized means others are watching your work and following your journey
• that’s a good thing
• it shows you are making progress
• there is also a difference between people that simply don’t like you, others that just criticize, and even others that offer to help you
• all different people with different motives
• I bet you know which one to pick to make part of your journey …
• Ignore the rest
• Be you
• Be your best
• Delivery your greatest work
• That’s all you can do
• Surrender the rest

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