Episode 528 – I am worthy

• I am worthy
• Welcome friends
• These 3 words were part of my yoga practice this morning and they stuck with me all day long
• I said them out loud this morning and it felt weird
• Say it for yourself and maybe you agree
• I am worthy
• I mean, isn’t this understood?
  • I am worthy
  • I have worth
  • I am meaningful
• Yes?
• Then why did it feel so weird to say out loud – I am worthy?
• And as I contemplated on this over the course of today I realized why
• Because I am holding back
• I didn’t notice I was holding back
• But this weekend I had a very honest and direct conversation with my climbing partner
• I finally expressed how certain things he says or does make me feel
• Many factors contributed to the fact that I finally opened up including his willingness to listen
• But that’s not an excuse for holding back for so long
• Month worth of trips together that often left me frustrated, feeling inadequate, and alone
• And what did I do?
  • I shut down
  • I withdrew
  • I hid my true feelings
  • Or I responded inappropriately
• But I didn’t say what truly bothered me
• And this is what came to mind this morning
• Because I finally stood up for myself and for what is important to me
• I was very close to ending the relationship with my climbing partner
• And in my mind – I would have blamed it on him
• and our inability to communicate
• When really,
• Its my inability to communicate
• Because I was the one with the concerns
• I am sure he had concerns as well
• But while opening up to him, I realized he had no idea about how certain things he said or did made me feel
• Because I never said anything
• Many motivational blogposts and cute IG pictures encourage us to feel worthy
• Without ever telling us how to actually do it
• I learned this weekend that worthiness doesn’t just come to us
• It’s not a feeling that can be forced
• When someone tells you that you are worthy, do you magically feel worthy?
• I dont
• Worthiness comes only when we do something about it
• When we stand up for ourselves
• Think about it
• When do we say we are worthy of something and then it magically comes to us?
• I can’t think of an example
• I am worthy a raise
  • Great – I will have to ask for one and make my case as to why I deserve it
• I am worthy of some alone time
  • Yes – but I will need to let people in my life know so they don’t think I abandoned them
• I am worthy of respect
  • Totally – but if I am not getting it, I need to either speak up or leave the situation
• If you feel that little twinge in your inners like I did, when you say that sentence out loud:
• I am worthy
• Then there is something in your life where you are holding back
• We often don’t feel worthy because we are not getting what we need
• And in order to get what we need, we need to step up
• Others around us may not know what we need,
  • Or they know but they are oblivious to it
  • To consumed with their own needs
• So we need to stand up \
• And this standing up for our needs can take many forms
• But you shouldn’t wait as long as I did
• The situation this weekend escalated and finally we were able to come together
• But it shouldn’t wait until it becomes unbearable
• When you are clear that you don’t feel worthy of something
• That’s a good time to begin reflecting
  • In what areas of your life are you holding back?
  • When do you feel insecure, unhappy, unfulfilled?
• Its easy to blame others
• Or to blame ourselves
• But then not do anything about it
• Remember
• The most challenging and uncomfortable things in our life almost always require that we take some form of action

• Listen to this beautiful quote from

“If I knew that today would be the last time I’d see you, I would hug you tight and pray the Lord be the keeper of your soul. If I knew that this would be the last time you pass through this door, I’d embrace you, kiss you, and call you back for one more. If I knew that this would be the last time I would hear your voice, I’d take hold of each word to be able to hear it over and over again. If I knew this is the last time I see you, I’d tell you I love you, and would not just assume foolishly you know it already.”
― Gabriel García Márquez

• Let me ask you:
• If you knew today would be the last time you get to see the person or experience the situation that makes you unhappy, what would you do?
• I would muster up as much courage as I can find and speak up
• With time running out, I would want to make the best out of every moment
• What we need to realize is that time is always running out, every day
• And we all deserve to feel meaningful
• So lets define what is holding us back from feeling worthy and lets do something about it
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Much love

Janine