I came across the following quote in a book I recently finished, and it stopped me in my tracks:

“In the absence of clearly-defined goals, we become strangely loyal to performing daily trivia until ultimately we become enslaved by it.”
— Robert A. Heinlein

I felt the truth in this. I can fill entire days—weeks, even months—with menial but satisfying trivia: washing everything washable in the house, cleaning our closets and drawers, repotting plants and buying new ones, making my own soap and face cream. And I feel incredibly accomplished in the process. Have you experienced that? The rush of checking off your to-do list, the comfort of order and cleanliness?

But once I’m convinced I’ve done enough for the day and finally open my laptop, it hits me: I haven’t done what I actually wanted to do. My bold goals for the year aren’t about clean curtains — they require brainpower, risk, and a willingness to “get in the arena” and face fear. But by distracting myself with chores, I found a clever way to avoid what matters most to me.

When I look a little closer at this pattern, a few truths start to surface:

• We tend to treat personal goals as something that will happen “later.”
• We buy into the idea that we’ll get to them “when we have time,” because we are already using every minute of every day.
• The mind resists new territory – it feels risky, so it pulls us back into safety, even when that safety kills our dreams.
• Binge-watching, endless scrolling, or any other form of time-fillers are often just escapes from the real challenge we are afraid to tackle.

But there’s another side — our desires — and I notice truths here too:

• There are things we want to do with our lives that we’re not doing.
• We know they matter — we keep dreaming about them.
• Deep down, despite all our fear and doubts, we know they’re possible.

When I look at areas of my life where I don’t fall into distraction, or when I observe friends who are making steady progress toward their goals, I notice some patterns there too:

• Financially-savvy people have firm systems: they follow investment strategies, track spending, and set limits.
• Fit, health-conscious people build their days around their routines — meal prep, gym time, nature walks. The same goes for artists, musicians, or volunteers who stay connected to what matters to them.
• Highly productive people use their calendars well. They make time for what’s important — and follow through.

What do these people seem to have in common?

• Decision – They are clear on what matters to them
• Commitment – They’ve made a promise to themselves.
• Focus – They structure their lives around their priorities.
• Discipline – They keep showing up, even when it’s hard.

I live on both sides every day – I scroll my evenings away on Instagram and at the same time, I rarely miss a workout. I know well how to avoid the discomfort of big goals AND I am also very capable of following through on them. In the conversations with people who came to my recent workshops I learned that this is true for many of you, too.
Just because we’ve mastered one area of life doesn’t mean a new goal isn’t hard all over again.

That is why I created From Someday to Today.
This 6-week online workshop is for those of us who are capable and driven – yet still find ourselves stuck when it comes to that one goal we keep putting off. Together, we’ll work side by side to move it forward. I’ll share the exact strategy I use daily to stay focused and on track. You’ll get built-in accountability, practical tools, worksheets, and even the opportunity for 1:1 coaching if you’re feeling especially stuck. If there is something you know you want to do, this workshop will get you going.

We start May 19th — and I’d love to have you there. More details and sign-up HERE.