Meet my friend Susie Wyshak and learn how to connect with people. We spent a wonderful afternoon talking about everything from chocolate to money, Toastmasters and how to talk to strangers. Susie is full of ideas, insights, and got me thinking about different approaches on how I connect with others. Allow yourself to be inspired to step a little bit outside of your comfort zone. You can find Susie at foodstarter.com and connect with her there. Enjoy.
If we treated our loved ones the way we treat an exquisite piece of chocolate, I believe our relationships would improve. The presence and the mindfulness that we bring when we savor food is the same we need to bring to the exchanges with the people in our life. Because without continued effort, those relationships lose spark and we lose interest.
I am a direct person and I never thought I had a problem saying what I want. Until I began listening to my friends. And I learned that I may be direct, but I am not clear. Directness is often emotionally charged and therefore not well received. Being clear with our needs however, is much harder. Lets discover what is holding us back from saying what we want and learn to get better at it.
Every day we are presented with a multitude of opportunities for self-reflection. But we miss many of them because we are distracted or don’t pay attention. When we take some time to examine them, we turn inward. Many of our beliefs and behaviors have been shaped by others and we have them autopilot. When we look closer, we may notice what is not working and no longer effective and change it for the better.
Will this matter? This is a question we need to ask ourselves more often – when we get frustrated with minor occurrences or when we don’t get what we hoped for. Will this matter tomorrow, a year from now? This is a question that helps us distinguish the small stuff that we often sweat from the big things we need to shift our focus to.
We decide over what bother us. As much as we want to blame the other person or the unfavorable circumstance, which may have triggered us, we are in charge of the response. And quite often, the best response is to not do anything. Instead of wasting valuable time and energy on trivial matters, we should spend it on those that do matter.
When it comes to our goals, we often give up control to easily. We let our environment decide what we can and cannot do. We have to remind ourselves that we are in control of our time and our decisions. We select what is important minute by minute. And if we don’t get to make progress in the areas that matter to us, then its time we begin to manage them more intentionally.
Walks can seem insignificant. As an exercise, they don’t seem tough enough. As way to get out of the house, they may not appear adventurous enough. And they may sound boring and time-consuming. Yet I have found that there is magic in walking. A few quiet minutes away from our tasks and alone with ourselves can bring answers, ideas and balance. A walk may be just what we need when everything else seems to much.
Lunar New is a holiday celebrated by millions and this year is the year of the rat. Its a special year of new beginnings and special opportunities. Let yourself be inspired by this ancient tradition, which I summarize in this episode, and go after your goals and dreams knowing you are set up for success this year.
Sometimes we don’t feel worthy in certain areas of our life. This often means that there is a gap between what we want and what we are getting. This is a sign that we need to take action and speak up. Worthiness doesn’t come magically by telling ourselves we deserve it. We actually have to do something about it.
Does it seem challenging to find an inner connection with ourselves? Our world can be noisy, overwhelming and distracting.
Yet, the direction for our life comes from within us.
The Quest For You Podcast is my mission to help you discover who you are. I will help you challenge yourself through daily guidance, motivation and inspiration. I want to help you find your direction.
